Do You Know? –They are Lying!

Have you noticed how often some people use the phrase "you know" in their speech?  "You know" this, "you know" that, even several times in the same sentence?  What are they secretly telling you?

It's not as if they are asking "do you know (whatever)?" and then waiting for an answer.  If it were, it might be some sort of rapport-building technique, a way to make sure that you are both on the same side.  No, they are telling you that "you know" whatever!  Rather, they could assume that you don't "know", because they seem to be giving you information!

You might even reply, "no, I don't know" or, "assume I don't" and be looked at strangely.  Because the other person is not consciously aware that they are constantly saying "you know"!

That is the key: The phrase is not coming from their conscious mind, but from the unconscious. The blatant contradiction, telling you that "you know" something you probably don't, is meant as a warning.  Their unconscious mind –vastly more powerful and honest than the conscious, but with limited vocabulary– is signalling that what they are telling you is a lie!  Or, at best, a half-truth.

Pay close attention to purveyors of "you know"; you will begin to see where they are lying.

How about you?  Listen carefully to what you are saying: How often do you use "you know" without a question mark?  Are you unconsciously telling others that you, too, are fibbing?

Odd Jobs

At Toastmasters, our members learn to speak sincerely without "ums", "ahs", "ers", "sort-ofs", unnecessary pauses and (you know) saying "you know".

New on the Block, Movers and Shakers  Back to top

• Lanser's on Main Restaurant, First Floor Upper in Naturally Yours Wellness Centre – Neighbourhood Bistro serving home-styled Italian and French food with an ambience to match.
• Blaque Fine Foods, Ground in Naturally Yours Wellness Centre – Wine and Grill House.
• Kitchen Vibes, Shop 11A, Upper Level in The Wedge, Morningside – Authentic African Tastes: Brebo (ox liver), Jollof, Lamb tails, Beef trotters, Samp & chicken, Lamb burger, Karoo Sirloin steak, Burundian Goat kebab, much more…
• SA Brand Footprint, Shop 11B, Upper Level in The Wedge, Morningside – Quirky ladies fashion, shoes, gifts.
• NB Cellular, Shop 36, Upper Level in The Wedge, Morningside – Cell phones and accessories, electronics, all kinds of repairs.
• Skintruth, Offices in The Wedge, Morningside – Skincare clinic. IV nutrition therapy on Fridays. By Appointment only.
• Scenar, Ozone and Far Infrared Sauna Therapist, Ground in Naturally Yours Wellness Centre.
• Philo Moodley Biokinetics, Shop 13, Offices in The Wedge, Morningside – Philo Moodley, BA(HMS), BAHons(Biokinetics), PR 0786101.
• Epilio, Shop 02, Offices in The Wedge, Morningside – Laser Hair Removal, Waxing, Threading, Hydro Facial, Tanning, Grooming Services.
• Innova OT, Offices in The Wedge, Morningside – Occupational Therapy.
• Acuphysio, Offices in The Wedge, Morningside – Physiotherapy, Acupuncture, weight loss, orthopaedic massage.
• Colourbox, Shop U23A, Upper Level in Morningside Shopping Centre – A one-stop fashion and lifestyle destination for women.
• MTN, Shop U44, Upper Level in Morningside Shopping Centre – Telecom Services: Cell phones, Contracts and Accessories.
• Clicks, Shop L07, Lower Level in Morningside Shopping Centre – Fully-equipped pharmacy. Dispensary coming (nearest is Morningside Dispensary at the Wedge).
• Havenley Beauty, Shop U08, Upper Level in Morningside Shopping Centre – Beauty Salon.
• Eden Tech, Shop L14B, Lower Level in Morningside Shopping Centre – Audio/Electronic, PC, Cellphone & Photo.

Restaurant Reviews by Judith Back to top

Funny Language, English...

How come it is grammatically correct to poke someone with a stick, or shoot them with a gun, but not to throw them with a rock?

Spiritless:  Back to top

• Chez Girard Cuisine in Naturally Yours Wellness Centre – Cafe, Deli and Catering. Moved from 20 West Road South, Morningside. A top restaurant for truly inspired and gorgeous French food. Outside catering and platters too.
• Seasons Cuisine in Naturally Yours Wellness Centre – Keto, Paleo, Banting and natural "good clean fair food", largely fresh and organic. Was First Floor Upper.
• Neo Luxury Bar, Shop 10 in The Wedge, Morningside – Niche fragrances exclusively from Italy and France, local bathroom things (diffusers, lotions, candles, body butter). Was Upper Level right of Avanti Hair-Stylist.
• Hot Yoga Studio in The Wedge, Morningside – The Wedge Office Block, second floor (opposite The Firm).
• iThority, Shop 02 in The Wedge, Morningside – IT Training, Learner Management, Workplace Solutions. "Businesses and individuals need to overcome the challenge of mastering the technology they depend upon" –presumably they help with this in some verbose jargon-filled way.
• Edgars Beauty, Shop U23a in Morningside Shopping Centre – Health & Beauty: Facials, makeovers, cosmetics. Chanel, Blv, Armani, Dior, Issey Miyake, Estee Lauder, Clarens, Aramis, Clinique. Was Upper Level.
• Abina’s Hair Salon, Shop U44 in Morningside Shopping Centre – New Look African Hair Salon: Relaxing, weave, perm, tinting, locks dreads, braiding, cuts, Caucasian braiding, Brazilian weave. Was Upper Level.
• Morningside Pharmacy, Shop L07 in Morningside Shopping Centre – Fully-equipped pharmacy and dispensary. Sister shop to Morningside Dispensary at the Wedge. Was Lower Level.
• Pringle of Scotland, Shop U18 in Morningside Shopping Centre – Exclusive branded clothing for men and women. Opened Nov 2018 in the big free-standing glass kiosk outside Design in Motion, Upper Level.
• Crystalia, Shop U08 in Morningside Shopping Centre – Crystals, chandeliers, jewellery and handbags. Was Upper Level.

For Earth Day

Planet Earth! You mean the world to me!

Coming: Special Gardening Feature!

In the Spring a young couple's fancy lightly turns to thoughts of – gardening.

Shopping in Sandton is proud to announce that we have obtained the exclusive services of a renowned gardening expert. Brigadier (Retired) James "Nuke" Killer will write a column and answer your gardening questions. (How we secured his services is a secret, but we are now several bottles of good whisky poorer.)

Retiring from a distinguished military career, Brig. Killer looked for a hobby. He was pleased to discover new uses for his talents for shouting, stomping around, and bossing people. That, with strategic thinking, military tactics, and plain gumption, made a winning combination in the African garden.

Being able to borrow equipment from his cowed former colleagues at the nearby military base also helped. His unique garden rapidly gained prominence. It has featured in top gardening publications to which we are definitely not giving free publicity here.

As the Brigadier says, "Africa is not for sissies, and the African garden is not a place for sissy plants".

We look forward to educating and delighting you with his column in future editions.

Overheard at the Checkout

"Have you no scruples?"
"No –I think the teenagers ate them all..."